End Ties With Your “Friend”

Cut your ties to the other man — whether or not you ever tell your husband about him — is only step one. You also need to funnel all the energy you were putting into your emotional affairs back into your marriage. And while setting aside more time to spend with each other — away from kids and other couples — is important for patching things up and maintaining intimacy in your marriage, it’s just as crucial to adopt a new attitude toward your guy.

Emotional connection is a mental state; you choose to feel connected to your husband. You decide to be loving and compassionate toward him. You will feel emotionally bonded and intimately stimulated with your husband because you’ve committed yourself and all your positive energies to him — and he’ll definitely pick up on the vibes you’re giving off.